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Clean Eating; Getting Started

By Renee Burchfield

 If you’re like me and most people you made a resolution, at the beginning of the month, to be healthier or lose weight. How is it going, are you still on track? Today I am going to share a lifestyle change that will help you reach your goal and is easy to stick to. The issue with most diets or programs is that they are so limited that they cannot be stuck to for a long period of time, clean eating is different in this way. When eating clean you are only eliminating 80% of the processed foods that you eat, which makes it easier to stick with.

What is Clean Eating?

Clean eating is exactly that, it is removing the preservatives and chemicals that they put in foods from your diet. The food that is eaten is as close to its natural form as possible. So you are looking at whole, unprocessed, and unrefined foods. Mainly the goal is to stay away from foods that have undergone a lot of different transformations to be the product you eat. The perimeter of the store is your friend and where you will find the bulk of your clean eating foods.

Steps to get started!     

  • Drink lots of water: It is recommend about 64 ounces a day. If you don’t drink a lot of water now start by replacing one or two of your sodas or coffee a day with water.
  • Eat vegetables: Besides the obvious good things about vegetables, you can eat and eat them without adding hardly any calories to your diet.
  • Pick whole grains: Brown rice, whole wheat bread, and quinoa are examples of better options.
  • Read labels: My rule is if I can’t pronounce it, then I don’t need to eat it. Also the fewer ingredients included the cleaner the food is.
  • Reduce Sugar intake: Fruits contain a lot of natural sugar that are better for you then artificial sweeteners however they still do not need to be eaten in high amounts.

Tips to be successful:

  • Don’t dump all the highly processed foods at once: The reason is because it would cost a lot to restock you pantry, and it’ll be easier for your body to adjust to the change in your diet.
  • Cook at Home: Cooking at home allows you to be in control of what goes into your food and the amounts of each ingredient.
  • Take it one day at a time, even one meal at a time: If you mess up don’t let it ruin the rest of the day or the week. Just start back over and keep going, one or two meals will not ruin you.
  • Do it 80% of the time: It is unlikely that you will be able to eat perfectly clean all of the time. So if you make it a goal to eat most of your foods clean then you have wiggle room to eat other foods without feeling guilty.
  • Be creative: The options can get bland, so be creative and play with spices to change it up.

Some Staples to keep on hand.

  • Chicken: Chicken is my go to meat because of the price and versatility, plus it is delicious in any form.
  • Fresh vegetables: your favorites, anything green is a great option
  • Nuts: Are great for snacks, just make sure not to eat too many for a snack.
  • Frozen fruit: Most any fruit is great for smoothies as well as desert options
  • Whole grain breads and pastas: For those that can’t survive without carbs

Don’t be scared off by what can seem like an overwhelming amount of information out there about clean eating, take it a step at a time. Over the next few weeks I will be sharing clean recipes and snacks over at Married and Hungry if you are looking for more information.

 

20141127_085341 - CopyRenee discusses her favorite parts of life over at Married and Hungry. Upon getting married and finding very few tips online on being a new wife she decided that she would share her journey. Being a self-proclaimed food nerd she shares her favorite recipes as well. Also trying to become craftier she even shares her Pinterest craft trials. You can keep up with her at @marriedanhungry over on Twitter, and Married and Hungry’s Facebook page.

 

Finish With A Flair OR Clawing Your Way To Completion… Finding A Way To Get It Done {Start}

By Dorothy Hill

It is such a privilege to be able to share with you about perseverance and completing what we start. No one needs this pep talk more than I.  Perseverance is a determination to complete a task. A singlemindedness. It will magnify every emotion you have ever had, from joy and eager anticipation to the depths of despair and (for me) self-loathing.  I ask your indulgence as I share a completely true story that illustrates this rigorous discipline. 

In those days we lived in the wilds of the Rocky Mountains. The wind was pretty constant and came at us out of the southwest. Our tri-level home bore the scars of the wind & extreme weather and it was clear that the siding needed to be replaced. So we got three estimates and our eyes popped right out of our heads. Just like in the cartoons. BOING. $32,000 was the cheapest! For steel siding! We had lived there long enough to internalize the fierce spirit of independence, and we squared our pioneer shoulders and declared we would do this ourselves. This was confidence born of inexperience.  And ignorance. 

So we bought the siding for a fraction of the cost of the estimate.  Oh, we laughed and felt smug and financially ahead of the curve for a time. (The ordeal/trip to get the siding is a story in itself that resulted in my writing my Last Will and Testament when I made it home.) We also decided to expand the project to include new, energy efficient windows and two sliding glass doors.  We did some research & decided yeah, we can do this. Even writing this I just shake my head at the breath of our ignorance. 

This project consumed Every. Single. Day. Hour. Thought. of that entire summer.  If my hubs was home, we were working on that siding and the windows. And we worked until it was too dark to see. At that latitude, it stayed light until around 9 p.m. or so. 

I was sick to death of the siding, the wind, the heat, and the project that was Never. Going to. End. At some point, in despair and desperation, I suggested we just burn the house down. He rolled his eyes at me and mumbled something like, “We’re almost done.”

Oh no we weren’t. There were still many boxes of siding, insulation, all kinds of trim and soffits and windows and doors. And scaffolding we had to move 3 times, and heavy drills and extension cords. We had to use screws because the relentless wind would pry the nails loose from the wood and the siding would rattle. I had seen houses that had lost some of their siding due to the wind. There were still LOTS of steel and insulation to cut. Oh, and shutters. They needed to be painted and hung. And speaking of paint as an added bonus, the day the hubs started taking out the first window – the bathroom window- the bathroom in which I was taking a SHOWER – that was the moment I realized that with the installation of the first window, this horribly huge project moved to include the inside of my house, too. Every room that had a window or sliding door would now need to be re- trimmed and painted.  Top to bottom and then there was a decision about ratty worn out carpet and the popcorn material on every ceiling in the house.  Do one, do them all.  See what I mean? I came to despise this project and our own foolishness at undertaking it.

 Siding and windows and carpet, O My!

Construction and painting that makes me sigh

Will it ever be over, will it ever be done?

It never was murmured that it would be fun… cause it wasn’t 

I believed we would never be done. I would have forgotten how to cook everything. I likely would not even recognize a stove. My hands, arms, legs, and my mental, state would never be the same. 

This project consumed us. Physically, personally, financially, emotionally. It was going to chew us up & spit us out. Evidently our project was on steroids and it was growing.  I never tallied the final costs, because I suspected it would be =/> $32K.  But even if it was, we got a lot more bang for our bucks. On a positive note, the hubs and I were also developing chiseled-looking muscles.  I’m telling you this, not even Tony Horton’s P90X was as hard as this project.

What we did not do was complain. I found myself biting on a stick to keep from hurling abuse at the universe for the difficulty of this DIY project. Once, on an especially hard day, I found myself biting on a scrap piece of steel siding. That’s not good…think galvanic shocks from metal dental fillings biting down on steel. Since I’ve moved south and stopped all this hard construction work, I’ve gotten new dental crowns and veneers. A blessing for sure. 

Before the snow started falling we had completed our projects. In time I stopped hating my house and became calm and content once more. 

During a time of contemplation, I thought about this siding experience and came to six conclusions about perseverance and finishing what we start. 

  1. Some things (like the siding) are not open ended. You cannot just decide not to finish it. It must be done.  Just do it. Find a stick to bite on if you must.
  2. Other things, like a story or poem I’ve started, I can make a judgment about whether or not they are worth the effort.  If you decide not to continue with it, please put it in a file and come back to it later.
  3. Sometimes you work so hard on a written piece that you just begin to hate it… like I hated my house for a while. But after I saw it done, I forgave it and began to love it again.
  4. Before you begin, have a plan. As detailed as you can make it.
      hard estimates for projects and crafts
      detailed outlines for each chapter of a book of non-fiction
      thorough synopsis for each chapter of a book of fiction
      clean off your work space, get your desk/work area super organized.
      Knowing where your tool are makes it so much easier to work
  5. As Steven Covey says, “Begin with the end in mind”.
      As much as possible set an end date
      Get your calendar out and identify the time you will be working on your project
      Be reasonable in your time estimates. (I’ve read that many diets begin with a goal that states they will lose between 30 and 3000 pounds in 2 weeks.  Don’t make a goal like that.)
      Guard that time and don’t let others fill it up with stuff that will keep you from accomplishing your goal.
      It’s okay to be flexible, as long as you are not using “I’m being flexible” to avoid a difficult part of the work.
  6. Find an accountability partner. Someone who will ask you how it’s going. Someone you can trust with your words and your work. Seek that respected friend who loves you enough to gently call you out on it when you are avoiding your work. That person who will walk you back you your writing desk, put you in your chair and quietly leave the room so you can work. Make sure your door only locks from the inside.  Just a thought. 

It feels absolutely fabulous to complete a difficult project. When I walked across the street and looked back at my house I was very proud.  The biggest reward I had at the time was, “I’ll never have to paint you again.” My house looked very good and unless the wind and weather blow it down completely, that siding is on there to stay.

Now, do you have any projects to finish?  I do.  One is a children’s story about a little girl named Anna. It is on my calendar to complete in January.  Another is a cross-stitch that I started in 1992. It’s painful to admit that. I’ll put it on the calendar to finish in February.  The thing is, it’s almost done.  Almost. Not Quite. 

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Keep Reading.  Keep Writing. 

dorothy hillDorothy Hill has lived in Arkansas for 10 years. She finds it easy to invest an entire day reading while ignoring everything else. She is married and has 4 grown children and 4 grandchildren. She is currently serving as Secretary for the Little Rock Chapter of American Christian Writers. What she really wants to do is quit work and fill her days with writing.

Beginning the Garden Discussion {Start}

By Jeanetta Darley

Garden rows

We are one twenty-fourths of the way into 2015.  Now is the perfect time to begin dreaming and planning about your garden space.  Whether you’re just starting out with a few vegetables in containers or you’re turning yet another few square feet of your lawn into a bounty of productivity, it’s never a bad idea to have a plan.

Just as the Sears catalog was the most popular wish book before Christmas from my childhood, the seed catalogs are now my favorite wish book after the New Year.  I pour over them, circling varieties and dog-earing pages.  But before I place orders for seeds of 10 different tomato plants, I always head to my garden planner.

Whether you prefer the old graph paper method or a digital planner, its best to look at what you have space for.  As well as taking into consideration what you have time to take care of.  For that reason I love the website Smart Gardener.  I can plan my garden based on the space available as well as how many people I hope to feed off of the bounty.  They also email great weekly reminders about what needs to be tended to.

I have a few gardening shows I always set my DVR for or subscribe to on Youtube.  You will find a ton of information on Pinterest but if you’re just starting out it can be a bit overwhelming and get you in over your head.  And never underestimate the wealth of knowledge you can find from garden organizations (Urban Gardeners, County Extension Office, or Master Gardeners) and your local library.

With simple planning and a basic knowledge of the plants you’re interested in growing you can have a successful and bountiful harvest.  Check out these helpful links and resources.

Open Pollinated Seed Sellers

 

Online Garden Planners

 

Publications & TV Shows

 

Central Arkansas Gardening Groups & Organizations

Headshot-Jeanetta DarleyJeanetta is a crocheter & coffee addict, chicken keeper & goat wrangler, a farmer girl & maker of drunk jellies. You can find her online at www.jeanettadarley.com or on twitter, pinterest & instagram @jeanettadarley.

Building Community Right Where You Are {Start}

By Amanda Farris

Community

So lately I’ve been thinking a lot about gathering people together and why it’s important and why I enjoy it so much.
It does not stress me out at all to have people over at the house, set a table setting for a small dinner party, or organize a sports game with friends.

But it does stress me out to do crafts, sing publicly, sew anything, or pick out paint colors.

I think it’s important to gather people together and build community because we aren’t meant to live this life alone.

You can build community around yourself no matter what your interests or strengths are.

You may not like to host dinner parties or themed get-togethers in your home , but you might be really good at teaching someone how to craft, shopping with someone to help them be more decisive ( I need this!) , or just calling a few friends for an impromptu  night out to eat.

All of these things are meant to be done with someone. It requires you to be around people and invest in them.

I’m sure your life is the same as mine and as all your friends. The overall key word is BUSY. It’s hard with all of our schedules, commitments, jobs, and to-do’s  to really stop and make time for building community and investing in others.

I’ve learned that it takes intentional effort and sacrifice of your own agenda to really slow down and pour into people.

But I can also testify that building community is worth every bit of effort and sacrifice that it takes.

So this season as we enter into the New Year and a “fresh start” as you might call it. I encourage you to start something right where you are that brings people together.

Think about your interests and schedule as you do this.  Make it a priority to become good at relationships. Gather, Grow, and Connect.

 

For me personally I am going to start and host and online book study for women. I realize that it’s important to pour into others lives and have others pour into your own. But I also realize the realistic scheduling limitations of my schedule and season of life as well as others schedule limitations to have a regular tangible meeting time and place.

I’m going to host this “community” online so that everyone who participates can provide input according to their own schedule.

Then once per month or once every other month I will host a face to face get together for everyone who can make it. The date will be set plenty in advance so that hopefully everyone can carve out a couple of hours to sit back relax and enjoy face to face fellowship without the scheduling pressure of meeting on a weekly basis.

Stay tuned for details to be posted on my blog if you are interested!

So today I encourage you to start the New Year with a new expectation of  community. This post is not meant to cause any guilt because I know we are all limited on time. But it is meant to encourage you to build community right where you are taking your schedule, strengths, and interests into consideration.

Community doesn’t have to be hard or stressful, just intentional.

So go- Be Awesome- Start Something new this year!

Here are some ways to start building community:

  • Start a book club
  • Lunch date with a friend once per month
  • Start a running club
  • Monthly Pinterest Party
  • Girls Night Out once every couple of months
  • Start a monthly meal swap
  • Get another family on board and commit to getting together once per month alternating each other’s houses

What others would you suggest?

What are you most interested in that you’d love to build community around? 

Amanda Farris Embracing GraceAmanda Farris is a wife to her super hero hunk of a husband and a mother to 3 little kiddos. Amanda is a teacher/coach who hung up her coaching whistle after she got promoted to motherhood. She is a runner who loves all things sports and outdoors. She loves early morning traveling, long coffee chats with her husband, and fresh flowers on her table. She is an adventurer at heart and has a great talent of unintentionally becoming over-busy (that’s a bad thing). So she is constantly reevaluating her life priorities which keeps her on her toes and helps her to live life passionately and deliberately.  Come Join the Adventure.

Setting Goals with Actionable Steps

By Tiffany Hathorn

Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions

1. Lose weight
2. Get organized
3. Spend less/Save more
4. Enjoy life more
5. Improve health/fitness level
6. Learn something new
7. Quit smoking
8. Help others
9. Find love
10. Spend more time with family

Do any of these sound familiar to you? If you are like most people, you have probably made at least one of these resolutions in the past. If you are like 70% of people who make New Year’s resolutions, you rarely (or never) achieve them. In fact, you may be amongst the 54% of people who give up or forget about their resolutions less than 6 months into the year. The fact is that most people’s resolve to achieve their New Year’s Resolutions weakens over time. Which leads to Year’s End Regrets.

But why is that?

I believe that it has to do with the lack of a plan. You know the saying: “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” I view setting resolutions (or goals) the same way as building a house. 

First of all, you need a blueprint. You can’t just say “I want to build a house” and then expect it to magically appear, can you? Well, the same goes for having a goal. It will take more than stating or writing a goal for you to make it happen. You need to write down your long-term goal, break it down into a series of short-term goals, and then plan specific actions that you will need to take each day, week, and month to work towards that goal. I like to think of the long term goal as the house, short term goals as levels of the house, and the specific actions as steps leading you from one level to the next. 

Next, you will need to have a solid foundation. For me, that involves having a positive mindset, a determined attitude, and a clear focus on why you need/want to achieve that goal. This also includes your skill set you’re your knowledge base. Without these things, you are much more likely to forget your goal or give up on it. Just as a house built on sand will not last long, goals set without a strong mental foundation will crumble. I sincerely believe that you have to work on yourself just as much as you work on your goals. 

You will also need the proper tools. This varies depending on what your goal is. For example, if your goal is to save money, then you will need not only a source of income, but a means by which you will actively save money (such as a savings account). If your goal is to eat healthy, then you will likely need a meal plan and a grocery shopping list. If your goal is to get organized, then you might need to invest in things such as a calendar, a planner, home/office organizational supplies, etc. If you goal is fitness, then you may need exercise equipment, workout videos, supplements, a gym membership, etc. You get the point, right? Think about your goals and what you will need to accomplish them and make sure that you have everything on hand. 

Next, you will need work ethic. You can have all of the plans and tools in the world, but those things will be pointless if YOU don’t put them to use. And you have to do that consistently. Inconsistent effort will result in you either taking forever to achieve your goals, or in you not achieving them at all. And lack of action will get you absolutely nowhere. You have to be willing and determined to put in the work to make your goals come to fruition. Otherwise, you will get to the end of the year and wonder why you are no close to achieving your goals than you were at the beginning of the year.

Finally, it helps to have a team of people helping you. Of course, it is possible to achieve your goals on your own. However, I find that we all do better when we have some kind of help. They may not actively help you with your goals, but even having a support system or accountability partners on your side can keep you motivated to move forward. So I always recommend letting other people know about your goals and keep them updated on your progress.  That way they can encourage you to keep going when you stumble or backslide. If they can help you to actually achieve your goal, that is even better.

Another goal-setting method that I keep in mind is called the S.M.A.R.T. method. 

Setting SMART Goals

Specific- As you have seen, it is important that you have goals that are broken down into specifics. The more specific, the easier it will be to actually stick to it. For example, rather than saying “I want to lose weight”, you can say that you want to lose 50 pounds by the end of the year. And to make it even more specific, you can say “I want to lose 4 pounds a month”. To break that one down even further, you can say “I want to lose at least 1 pound each week”, which can be further broken down into “I want to lose at least one pound each week by eating healthy meal options and working out 4 times a week for no less than 30 minutes a day.” Do you see the difference and how much easier it would be to work towards the last goal?

Measurable- Your goal should also be something that you can actually measure. Basically, how will you be able to track your progress and when will you know you have reached your goal?As you can see in the previous section, I made the goal measurable by clearly stating that the goal is to lose 1 pound a week, which would add up to the long-term goal of 50 pounds by the end of the year. This is easily measurable by stepping on a scale. The same thing applies to other goals. For example, if your goal is to save money, you can measure your progress via a savings account. If your goal is to be more organized, you can measure your progress by keeping a to-do list and marking off the tasks that you accomplish. For every goal you set, determine a way that you can track your progress. 

Attainable- When a goal is attainable, that means that you have the attitude, ability, skills, knowledge, and tools to achieve it. Setting goals that you are not equipped to achieve will likely result in failure. This does not mean that you should not set the goals you have your heart set on. What it does mean is that you may have to push yourself to grow and develop in order to attain these goals. 

Realistic- On a related note, you have to have realistic goals. For example, it would not be realistic to want to lose 50 pounds in a month. Barring some kind of extreme surgery, this is not going to happen. You want your goals to be realistic, not only because you will be more likely to achieve realistic goals, but because having unrealistic goals can cause you to become frustrated. Imagine if your goal was to lose 50 pounds in a month and you worked really hard to achieve it, and failed. Even if you lose 10 pounds (which is more realistic), you may think to yourself “But it isn’t 50 pounds” and give up. By having realistic expectations from the beginning, you are better able to stay motivated. 

Timely- Finally, you need to have a deadline associated with your goals. It is not enough to say “I want to lose weight”. You need to have a specific time frame in mind for losing that weight. For example, do you need to lose it in time for a certain event? Maybe you want to lose it in time for summer. Or maybe you want to lose it by the end of the year. The simple addition of a deadline can create a sense of urgency that will push you to action. 

As you can see, there is more to goal-setting than making a general declaration of what you want to happen. You have to know exactly what you are pursuing, have it broken down into short-term goals, have a specific list of actions that you need to take to work towards your goal, and actively work on it in a way that is consistent and measurable. If you follow these tips, I am sure that you will find that achieving your goals for this year will be more fruitful than the years where you just flew by the seat of your pants. 

Now tell me, what are your goals for this year? I’d love to hear what you ladies (and gents) have planned for 2015. Please let us know in the comments below. 

Tiffany HathornTiffany Hathorn has been blogging since the summer of 2010. She got started as a way to document her pregnancy and her life as a first-time mother. Since then, her blog has transformed into a chronicle of her life as a single WAHM. She blogs about raising her son solo, working from home, and her journey as a homeschooling mom. If you would like to follow Tiffany, you may do so by subscribing to her blog or liking her fan page.