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Julie Kohl – Celebrate Working Better Together In The Kitchen

Celebrate Cooking Together

I can be a bit of a control freak. (Okay, a LOT!)

Sometimes that’s a good thing, and sometimes it backfires on me.  

When it comes to the kitchen, I am a MAJOR control freak.

Early on in my marriage that backfired on me.

I come from a family that spent a lot of time together in the kitchen. We cooked and cleaned together. We hung out in the kitchen. Most family gatherings revolved around food and meals. Making food and eating food together was an important part of our lives.

My husband’s family was not into cooking and gathering around food like my family.

When we spent the first night in our home just after getting married, I planned an elaborate special breakfast. Holidays are always big affairs with menu planning for weeks in advance even if it’s just the two of us. I’ve been known to go all out for special dinners in the middle of the week.

Richie, who would have been happy with fried chicken every night when we first married,  always thought this was a bit strange, but smiled and went along with it. 

He enjoyed the chaos (and the food) from the comfort of his living room chair.

I expected Richie to step into the kitchen with me.  To help cook. To help clean. Or at the least, offer to do the dishes if I did all the cooking.  

Richie had never cooked more than a piece of toast, and his lack of understanding how things worked in the kitchen wasn’t entirely his fault. So, I invited Richie into the kitchen to help.  We were still in “honeymoon” phase, trying to please each other, attempting to figure out how things worked.

But things didn’t go as expected.

I expected more. I expected knowledge. Basic understanding of how to slice an onion. How to load a dishwasher.

I got angry when that didn’t happen. There was frustration. There were words. Ugly words. There were tears.

It did not go well, to say the least.

Sixteen years later, the kitchen is still a place where we don’t quite jive yet.  Recently, we’ve tried to rectify that.  

Here are five tips to work better together in the kitchen.

  1. Start Simple
    If you’re working with someone who is new to a kitchen don’t throw Beouf Bourguignon, at them the first time out of the gate. Start simple with things like sandwiches or breakfast.
  2. Learn Together
    Take a cooking class together. Watch some kitchen technique videos on YouTube. Watch a show on the Food Network and then recreate the recipe together. 
  3. Swap Jobs
    If you cooked, your spouse/significant other should do the dishes.  But this should also be reciprocated. 
  4. Meal Plan Together
    My husband seems more excited about helping in the kitchen if it is a meal he is excited about.
  5. Release Control
    There really is more than one way to slice an onion and more than one way to load a dishwasher.  The dishes will still get clean and the food will still taste great even if the pieces of onion are sliced into 37 different degrees of thickness.


Jacqueline Presley: Healthier Peanut Butter-Banana Ice Cream

Celebrate Cooking Together

Whether you are an ice cream lover, but can’t handle the lactose or you just want to cut fat and calories of your favorite sweet treat, I’ve got you. You can celebrate carving about 150 calories off your midnight snack if you make it my way.

Here’s what you need:

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Chop up your banana.

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Add it and a tablespoon of peanut butter (I used chunky.) to your food processor.

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You will process it for a bit. Keep going until you get this texture:

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Top with your favorites. I used chia seeds, but could also use sprinkles, peanuts, or chocolate chips.

It’s pretty delicious and it makes a great healthy after-school snack too!

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Jacqueline PresleyI am a work-at-home-mom of two little crazies: Katie (almost 7) and  Jackson (almost 5) and wife to Spencer for 12 years. I blog at CreativeOutpour and I am a Social Media Manager for Rockwell Global.