Category: Family

Does Your Family Care(Give)? 9 Ways to Make the Difference for the Caregiver This Season

“She get’s so lonely, why can’t even one person from her Church visit?” Posed to me this morning, from someone caring for her Mother who knew my history.

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Brenda with her Mother, Josie Reynolds McClain in Iowa for a wedding.

Caregiving is the most rewarding job in the world, it is also the most difficult. A job most know nothing about, but stay ready with suggestions and advice about what to do. Hear me when I say, “They.Know.Nothing.”

As my beloved Mother’s primary Caregiver in her last years, it was my greatest privilege.  She taught me so much. I learned about myself; more about her, my siblings; extended family; Church family; and Friends.

We began having caregivers before we actually needed them because Mother was lonely. Knowing it was impossible to stay in the room chatting with her all day, every day, I made the decision to bring someone in to keep her company.

Then, in last two years of her life, Mother didn’t want to be without a member of family during the night, specifically one of her three daughters. It was left up to me, leaving me house-bound too. God SO blessed those nightly conversations. We would talk, sometimes into the wee hours of the morning. Those times are among my most cherished memories and with me forever.

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Brenda and her ‘Sister from Another Mother’ Deborah Evans Price, of Nashville, Tennessee. One of Brenda’s friends who understands the Caregiver’s Life.

Beyond friends who’d traveled the same road, few understood. As we enter the Holidays, my suggestions to make a difference in the life of another.  

  1. CALL before any visit. Even to change pajamas, or bed jackets, it takes a moment. 
  2. VISIT when you say you will or call to cancel. Plans can change. Let the Caregiver know if a visit is no longer possible.   Well-meaning friends once told Mother they were coming ‘Friday’. Friday morning we got up, dressed then waited all day for someone who never showed or called. Yes, it broke my heart for her. 

    It’s not tolerated in business, why is it acceptable for us to do this to Friends or Family?

  3. FOOD. Learn any health restrictions. Honor the information. There were times we were practically force-fed food as the ‘cook’ sat, watched, saying “It won’t hurt just this one time. Isn’t it delicious?” 
  4. CLEAN UP after yourself.   
  5. TALK & SEE.  Look in their eyes, tell them what you’ve been doing, ask about their children and grandchildren. Pray with them. Ask who they would like you to pray for, for them? Most are starving for company and communication with the outside world. Church is usually what is missed the most. 
  6. MAIL. Even a postcard is appreciated. 
  7. WRITE. Offer to write letters or cards, be prepared to drop in the mail upon leaving. 
  8. NEWS. A new baby? Recent wedding? Photos are loved and a connection to celebrations now missed. Mother sent baby gifts and wedding gifts for every church shower. She read every morsel of the Church bulletin, memorizing names and faces in the directory. Why? To see in her minds-eye who needed prayers as she read her bulletin. That is how important Church was to her life. 
  9. ASK. Is there anything I can do for you today, to make your life easier?  
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The Marvin Reynolds Family, Thanksgiving, late 1950’s in Conway, Arkansas.

People who cared for my Mother when it was difficult on everyone (including her) will always have my love, respect and loyalty. 

We should put our elderly on pedestals, love and cherish them. It is the most rewarding work we can accomplish.  ONE thing every day, even a phone call can make the difference in their life and in yours.  

If you or your church is interested in developing a Caregiver Program and have questions, email me: b@brendamcclain.com.

Brenda McClain headshotBrenda McClain is Gallery Director of Art on the Green.  She Blogs about the Magic being made daily at artonthegreen.net and experiences as Entertainment Publicist at BrendaMcClain.com.

God’s Sense of Humor About Family

God must have a funny sense of humor, a little girl from Texas who wanted to grow-up and save all the animals, is now Mom and Nana to a herd of people, but not in the traditional family format.

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Growing I thought family was always a husband and a wife, plus their children (if they have any). Today, however, our society displays greater diversity. There are several alternative family forms. They include but are not limited to: single parenthood, cohabitation, LGBT relationships, polygamy, and the extended family.

Laughingly my family does not fit the traditional definition of family or any of the alternate definitions of family forms.  If the definition of family was – a group of people with strong emotional attachments, my family would well defined.

Growing up I did not envision my grown-up life with a big family.  My family was a traditional family. My father had a strong opinion about family and a negative opinion of alternative lifestyles.  As I have grown in my faith and understanding of people, my vison of family changed.  Some additions to my bonded family, have caused me to question my beliefs.  Is it ok to have a grandchild born out of wedlock? Is it ok for a daughter to live with someone before marriage? Is an alternate life-style acceptable? Can you love someone who has been to prison? Is wanting the best for someone outside of your traditional family your responsibility?  The answer to all of these questions is – it is not my place to judge.

Each of these questions were answered by one single statement found in the Bible:  John 13:34-35 34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”   There are multiple verses in the bible that instructs us to “love one another”?  That means – do not judge, do not dictate, do not set limits, do not half-way give of yourself and belongings. 

So what does my family look like?  The Big Man and I have six adult children (mine, his, and someone else’s), five perfect grandsons and three awesome little girls that call us Nana and Poppy.  Of course there are the spouses and significant others that come with the adult children, numbering four.  We have opened our home to others at different periods of time, including those without a home and those without a family. 

As I look around my den or dining room during the holidays I am reminded that as little girls we cannot imagine the dreams and blessing God has for us, we just think we know the plan.  When the noise level is so loud you can’t hear or the phone is ringing constantly because everyone is in everyone’s business, I realize that I am bonded to all the voices by love.  I am not to judge but to love, In Luke 12:48 “When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required.” I have been given much – much more than a little girl from Texas could ever imagine. We are not a traditional family.  We are much, much, more, we are God’s Family, bonded by friendship and love, sharing a small corner of the world, in Northeast Arkansas.

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Connie is a 50-something wife, mother, Nana, doggie mom, vegetarian, living in the small community of Blytheville, AR. located in the far Northeast corner of the State. She shares a home with her husband aka The Big Man, 14 rescue dogs and 7 chickens. Collectively they have six adult near-perfect children and five perfect grandboys, 1 sweet granddaughter, 2 god-daughters and 5 awesome granddogs.  Connie is a family nurse practitioner who runs a small clinic and manages a free health clinic (Great River Charitable Clinic). Her and the Big Man also own and operate Bed and Biscuit Boarding. Connie is an active member of the Blytheville Humane Society. Her Blog http://scrapbookwife.blogspot.com/ chronicles her journey to live a balance simple life making her little corner of the world a better place to live.

   

Yavonda Chase

by Yavonda Chase

We are nearing my favorite holidays of the year – Thanksgiving and Christmas.

When I was a kid, Christmas won out, of course. What kid doesn’t love opening all of the presents? And as an adult, I admit that it is still at the top of the pack because I so enjoy watching the wonder in my child’s eyes as she opens her presents. In fact, I think I have more fun watching her now than I did unwrapping my presents as a child.

But Thanksgiving comes right behind it. For years, I chalked it up to the food. I mean, no other banquet comes close to the Thanksgiving spread, probably because those other banquets don’t have my mama’s cornbread dressing. I’m sure you’ve had good cornbread dressing, but you really haven’t lived until you’ve eaten my mom’s. I could eat it by the pan (and I’ve come close a few times.)

I was in college when I realized that there was more to it than the food.

My sophomore year of college I was fortunate enough to study aboard. A student at Harding University, I signed up to go to Harding University in England, better known as HUE, for a semester. I absolutely loved it.

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We lived in the West End of London. We were in walking distance (or a short tube ride away) to the theaters, Covent Garden, Piccadilly Square and the British Museum.

For a kid who had grown up in Booneville, Arkansas, and always wanted to live in a big city, London was a giant playground. I really was in heaven.

Until Thanksgiving.

That semester abroad was the first time I’d ever been away from home for the holidays. And I was miserable.

I remember spending the day at Cambridge University. As part of our England experience, we traveled outside of London once a week to see more of the country. So on Thanksgiving, we found ourselves eating a lunch of pizza or fish and chips in the Cambridge cafeteria. We also had orange juice, which is as disgusting as you might imagine with pizza or fish and chips. But Mum, the sweet older lady who organized all of our trips, thought that orange juice was an important part of the American Thanksgiving, so she had gone to great trouble to make sure that we had that for our meal.

Her sweet gesture was just one of the many things that nearly brought me tears that day.

I called home three times on Thanksgiving, just so I could hear my mom’s voice. For the first time that semester, I was so homesick. I hated the thought that my entire family was together (even my oldest sister had made it home that year), and I was across the ocean. Briefly, I wished that I hadn’t signed up for the semester abroad — a sentiment that would pass and not reappear again during my trip.

It was while I was away during Thanksgiving that I realized WHY it meant so much to me. It wasn’t the food or the time off from school — it was my family. It was having my parents and my three sisters, along with their families, under one roof for a very special day.

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It has been many years since that Thanksgiving in England (we won’t talk about how many years!), but the lesson comes back to me whenever the holidays roll around. Thanksgiving may be hectic as my little family squeezes in two Thanksgiving dinners (one with my family and one with my husband’s family), but we are so blessed to have so many people we love living 45 miles or so from us.

Now, could someone pass the dressing?

yavonda-chase-bioArkansas Women Bloggers member Yavonda Chase writes about life, love and everything else at SimplyYavonda.com. She is a wife and mother who considers her daughter to be her greatest accomplishment. She was born in Kentucky and still cheers for the Kentucky Wildcats, but has lived in Arkansas for 30 years and proudly calls Central Arkansas home.

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Family Changes Plans

by Alicia Dowell

Most girls play house and dream about starting a family. This was never my plan. I dreamed of becoming a history teacher. My life was all mapped out, including backup plan. Or I thought I had it all set.

However, my plans went out the window one night while I was in college. The phrase love at first sight usually is for movies or romance novels but let me tell you, it is real. For me, it was like closing one window and opening a door.

See my little family started at a party. Wait! It is not what you think. I went to a party  with my sister along with most of my college friends were going to as well. Of course, I arrived late (It happens when you have night classes.) and by the time I got to the party it was in full swing. When I walked in, I looked around to see the guy my sister had told me about. He was an old friend of her boyfriend. My sister nudged me and that is when I saw him. Remember that love at first sight feeling? Yeah at that moment all my plans were out the window and the door to my future flung wide open.

It took Jeremy a couple of more weeks to realize we both were going to start a life together. Life for us was busy for the next couple of years with me graduating college and then a wedding for us. Just as we were getting used to the idea of being married our plans went right out the same window again.

Instead, we found out our party of two was going to be a group of three. Our little family grew and has continued to grow over the years. Our family is now grown to three humans, one dog, three-yard rabbits (another story for another time) and forty some odd chickens.

My idea of family sure has changed in the last ten years and I wouldn’t change our family for any plans.

alicia dowell headshotBorn and raised in Arkansas, Alicia Dowell loves her home state. She grew up on her family farm in Southwest Arkansas. She was taught a deep love of caring for animals, growing a garden, and the slower way of life. Alicia married her college sweetheart and welcomed her daughter a year later. She can still be found in Southwest Arkansas on their one-acre farm or on Instagram which fuels her photography habit.

Confessions of a Semi-successful Gardener

by Jeanetta Darley

“April showers bring May flowers.”

And yes, May flowers bring pilgrims but this time of year they also bring bees to the garden.  And bees bring pollination.  And pollination brings a bountiful harvest.  

Well, that’s the theory of gardening anyway.  

When that theory is proved right you feel so successful.  You feel like the queen cultivator out to provide food for her family from the dirt of the earth.  Crowned with your over-sized sun hat and your trusty trowel at your side.  You envision an ever vigilant summer where weeds tremble at your hands, beetles and aphids have retreated in terror and the neighbor’s dog has banished any thought of digging in that fresh smelling dirt.  You can and freeze and dehydrate.  Fresh salads are fixed every night.  And your kids no longer snub the dark green vegetables from days of yore because they have been enlightened and now know where their food comes from and will eat it happily.

Sorry to burst your bubble but the dream of gardening nirvana just doesn’t exist.  Not even for professional farmers and gardeners. The reality is a garden, like anything worthwhile, is hard work.  It’s dirty work during the hottest most humid times of the year. But don’t let the fear of failure or the harsh conditions stop you from pushing on.

I have only been gardening with minor success for maybe the past four years.  I say minor success because each year I learn some things I need to stop doing and some things I need to start doing.  So this is my garden confessional for this year.

Things to stop:

  • I’m a hopeless over-planter.  I envision myself harvesting and washing and cooking and canning every evening during the summer when the reality is I’m lucky to give them a quick rinse and blanch and pop them in the freezer.  

  • Don’t get angry at my family when they don’t share my gardening passion.  I can get grumpy being the only one that ever waters or mulches or shells peas.  Even if they do enjoy the eating.

Things to start:

  • Keep a better journal.  I use a fantastic online journal with the website SmartGardener.  It is very easy to use and helps with your garden floor plan and even sends email reminders.
  • Prune! I’m terrified to prune. So by mid summer my over-planted, over-grown raised beds resemble a small jungle.
  • Compost.  It’s time I gathered all the chicken poop and tossed it in with the eggshells and other matter and get some composting bins started
  • Plan our meals around the harvest and give our abundance to food pantries.

I am always asked questions about starting a garden and when you’re supposed to do what when.  The truth is I’m still learning all that too.  I ask questions. I look things up and most importantly I just go ahead and do it.  Start simple.  Don’t get discouraged.  Pay attention.  And have fun.  Happy gardening!

My Favorite Gardening Resources:

Animal, Vegetable, Miracle by Karen Kingsolver

SmartGardener.com

P. Allen Smith’s Youtube Channel

Kindness Matters {Lessons Learned}

Written by By Gretchen Clarice Minchew of Clarice’s Book Nook and The Perspective of a Suburban Housewife

You never know just how much of a responsibility children are until you have them. They are one of the most precious things in this life, and yet, they are also one of the scariest. Before you have any children, you are free to do mostly what you want. If you want to go to Wal-mart to buy the latest Twilight movie that is coming out at midnight, you can. It may be detrimental to your sleep and your spouse might not be very happy, but the point is that you can. When children come into the picture, this is no longer true. For the most part, you don’t let the kids out of your sight, much less run off to Wal-mart at midnight.

When I had my oldest, Susan, I started realizing just how big of a deal it is to raise your children well. After the initial shock of no sleep ever and buying more diapers than I could count, it started dawning on me that I was going to be her first teacher in life. Everything I did she was going to notice. Susan was going to look to me to know what was right and what was wrong. Whatever I did, she was probably going to do too. Small children are like little parrots. They mimic a lot. Naturally, this type of realization hit me like a bolt of lightning. It is a scary thought for many of us after we start thinking about our pasts. So the teaching began. You teach them to pick their toys up, to use the potty, to speak so you can actually understand their gibberish. But one of the most important things you can teach them is to be kind.

I waited tables at a pizza place for several years, and I saw so many people who were having a bad day, or who were just grumpy. I generally don’t let grumpy people bother me. I remind myself that these people might need a little smile, a little cheer. Maybe they just needed a little kindness. And after all of those years doing my best to be kind to people, even though sometimes I was feeling rather mean, it has somehow rubbed off on Susan. She is very kind to everyone around her, and she is very friendly. We were at Wal-mart a few days ago and went through the side door instead of the automatic one. She saw that there was a lady coming and wanted to hold the door open for her, although she was still several feet away. In fact, she ended up holding the door for four or five people. And all I heard were the comments of how nice she was and how you just didn’t see that anymore. It’s a shame too. It’s a very important lesson we could all learn from.

I have a small sign in my kitchen that says “Kindness Matters”. And it really does. It may be such a small thing, but it can make such a big difference.

I live in Arkadelphia, Arkansas with my two wonderful daughters and my loving husband. I love to write and took up blogging this year. It has become my new passion.

Wild Week {Summer Camp Memories}

By Kelcie Huffstickler

From the time I was going into seventh grade until the summer after I finished high school, I went to the same church camp. The camp had different locations around the country. With my youth group, I attended the one in Carlinville, Illinois; in Talladega, Alabama; and in Panama City Beach, Florida. The locations were different, but each year we knew what to expect: the same crazy, spontaneous college-age staff; the same hilarious, talented, juggling emcee; the same anointed and inspiring worship team; and the same fiery, dynamic, cross-shaved-in-his-head minister.
“Wild Week,” as the camp was called, was one of the most defining parts of my teenage years. I think back on those weeks at camp and I have enough memories to fill a book, not a blog post.

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Like the crazy, out-of-control water fight we had outside the dorms. The best part of that one was that all our youth leaders were involved, and my dad (who was an adult leader) still tells the story of getting doused by a full trash can by two prank-loving adult women.

Or, the time me and my girlfriends decided to join other youth groups around the cafeteria, each playing their own game of “Pass the Peach.” Except “Pass the Peach” really wasn’t a game at all but an attempt to do the most disgusting, germ-infested thing you’d ever done as a Christian teenage girl. It was where you passed a juicy, canned peach slice from your mouth, directly to your friend’s, who passed it to her friend’s, and so on and so on. We thought we were the biggest dare-devils on Earth, but thinking about it now just makes me gag.

Or, when our circle of friends would pound our fists on the table shouting “WE ARE TABLE ONE, TABLE ONE, TABLE ONE. WE ARE TABLE ONE, WHERE IS TABLE TWO?” And wait for another group across the cafeteria to pound out the next verse.

As good as those memories are and as much as they make me smile, they’re just shadows compared to the real limelight of camp: the church services. It’s amazing how nearly 1,000 high school kids, amped up on Red Bull and classic “youth group adrenaline,” can become as serious and focused as the most mature adult crowd, given the right reason. And these services were it.

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The last night of camp always included a communion service, with a more reflective and hushed tone than the rest. As a young teenage girl, I would walk into those services, silent along with hundreds of my peers, and often be moved to tears by the presence of God. The worship team would be playing. A large wooden cross might be displayed at the front. And the prayers lifted up by hundreds of “Wild Week” staffers could be felt impacting us each as we entered.

I, along with so many others, would leave those services changed. I was never a “bad” girl. I didn’t need a dramatic behavior change. What I needed – what I still need today – was for my heart to be drawn near to the Father’s. And on those nights, it was, in a mysterious, indescribable way.

When I think back on my years at camp, I’m thankful God chose to make them part of my faith story. It’s interesting because, as an adult, I now can see imperfections in what I thought – at the time – was the most perfect place on Earth. But what’s clear is that camp was exactly what I needed at that time in my life. It kept me on the “straight and narrow.” It enriched my life during years when most everything else depleted. And in so many ways, it made me who I am today.

Kelcie Huffstickler is a small town mama with a heart for the world. She lives in the same small town where she was born and raised, now with her hubby 

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and two little girls. They enjoy living blocks away from family members, feeling safe if they forget to lock their doors, and visiting the occasional Friday night catfish buffet. She hopes to instill in her girls a sense of pride about their southern, small town upbringing, while at the same time giving them a Biblical view of the world. To read more about her small town, faith-filled life, visit her blog at thisbeautifulinheritance.com or follow her on Twitter.

The Women Who Have Inspired Me {The Park Wife}

by The Park Wife

This month’s theme is Women Who Inspire Us. As I sat down to write this, I thought, wow, this will be easy, and then as I stare at the blank page, I wonder how I could ever  convey the love, admiration, and thankfulness for the women God has put in my path to teach me, guide me, and love me unconditionally.

So, I will just give you a list and why, then I want to hear about the women that have inspired you.

FOUNDATION
My mother:  She molded me, sacrificed for me and is always there for me. She even kept a secret from me for 20 years that I found out recently which answered a lot of questions. It is the reason I am who I am today, the woman who God created me to be. Thankful.

FAITH
Lydia: When I moved to a new state park with a two-year-old and pregnant with our second, I received a call from Lydia. She had seen my husband in the paper announcing his new job and that we had a little boy. Her husband was a preacher at a local church and she said she just wanted to call and welcome us to town. We talked for about an hour about our lives. Before we hung up, Lydia said something to me that I can still hear in my head today. She said, “we would love for you guys to come visit the church, but even if you don’t, I would love to be your friend.”

I was a bit skeptical, yet excited. I am happy to say that she is exactly who her words and actions say she is. She does not live in a “Christian Bubble”, she truly lives her life trying to love others, all people,  as Jesus does.

GUIDANCE
Penny is an exceptional wife and mother, she homeschooled her three children and they are all exceptional human beings that love the Lord. I knew nothing about homeschooling, not that it even existed before Penny. Her insights guided me through some very turbulent waters. She provided me with child-rearing skills that have worked and not only am I a better mom because of her but my boys are well-adjusted, happy, loving children that are a pleasure to be around.

HOPE
Laura Hyche was my high school English teacher. She was the kind of teacher that inspired you to read a classic that you had no desire to read. She encouraged me to be on the newspaper staff and gave me the confidence to always try, even when I thought I was not good enough. Thank you Hyche, I am enough and I know that now, thank you for putting me on that path.

LOVE
We met Johnnie (aka Nana) and her husband when we lived on a mountain park and we both worked for an international development non-profit. She became my ” Arkansas mom” and our boys’ Nana. Her gentle, kind spirit permeates all things she does.

COMMUNITY
Yes, my Arkansas Women Bloggers gals. Four years ago, as I sat in rural Arkansas in a bit of a “desert”, I formed this little gathering place, a non-judgmental, encouraging place with the desire to help us be better women, wives, moms, friends, and of course, bloggers. I could not have imagined the beautiful souls that would become some of  my dearest in real life friends from this online world. If you have not stepped out of your comfort zone to be a part of this community, I urge you to try, you will be rewarded with the most honest, pure kind of friendships with some pretty cool ladies and some awesome bloggity goodness to boot!

Do you have women who have inspired you? Tell me about them!
The Park Wife

How Bloggers Are Changing The World

by Beth Stephens, The Little Magpie

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. ~ Margaret Mead

From the very first time I visited the Arkansas Women Bloggers site in 2010, I knew there was something special about this little community, but I couldn’t quite put my finger on what made it stand out specifically. Yes, it was a pretty and well laid-out site (back then on Blogger!). Yes, it had some nice visuals and content that I enjoyed. Yes, the word on the street about the gals behind the site was that when they held a meet-up, it exuded warmth and openness. However, you could say all of those things about dozens of other blogger communities all over the U.S.

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So, as I’ve often shared, in typical Beth-fashion I sent them a note with a harebrained idea for a blog conference – something low key and a little bit different from all the big conferences. Back then, Fawn of Instead of the Dishes was part of the leadership team, and she is still an ex officio member despite deserting Arkansas for Missouri. She drew the short straw and got stuck picking up the phone to call me, and the rest is history. Now, the third annual AWBU (Arkansas Women Bloggers Unplugged) conference is upon us, and it has developed a delightful cult-like following. (You’ve registered, right? The early bird registration rate ends in 2 days!!)

The point of all that is this: the women of Arkansas Women Bloggers are very different, and that same vibe is spreading across the mid-south as our missionaries spread and take the goodness to other states where it continues to grow (case in point: Oklahoma Women Bloggers, oh and Kansas, Texas, and soon Alabama and Mississippi). I think that all boils down to a clear mission, unwavering focus on the path chosen and doing the right thing, knowing that it always pays off. I think there is another common trait in the really good bloggers:

A certain entrepreneurial spirit, a story they feel obligated from their bones to share, a knack for making deep
and sincere connections with others and a little bit of scrappiness.

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As it so happens, the qualities above (mission, focus, doing the right thing) all make up one of our very own Arkansas bloggers, Jenny Marrs. I’ve already dedicated ample blog space to listing all the reasons I adore her personally and telling you about her adoption journey, and many of you may have already grown fond of her yourselves when you met her after she led a photography workshop at last year’s AWBU conference at the Ozark Folk Center. She and her family are on a mission to bring their little girl home, they are unwavering in their focus, and along the way I can assure you they always do the right thing.

As a result, not one but two amazing organizations have approached their family with some incredible opportunities. Give1Save1 is featuring their adoption journey and an amazing video as part of a fundraiser all this week, and Arkansas-grown Pure Charity is using their story to launch an adoption fundraising feature of their website this week at the Summit 9 adoption conference.

In summary: Two national organizations dedicated to adoption and philanthropy. A national conference paying heed to a story linking Bentonville, Arkansas and Africa. Thousands of future U.S. families and orphans from developing nations who will be positively affected and who will ultimately become connected as families thanks to the fundraising and awareness tools provided by these two visionary organizations.

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That, dear readers, is the power of bloggers. It’s the power, in my opinion, of Arkansas Women Bloggers. It’s the kind of amazing, can’t-possibly-be-true stories that literally happen all the time because of the deep and lasting impact of the relationships developed when a solitary blogger in Arkansas (like The Park Wife) decides to build a community (like Arkansas Women Bloggers) with a focused mission and a commitment to doing the right thing (Gather, Grow, Connect), and when that community grows into a passionate group of bloggers who have those common traits mentioned above:

A certain entrepreneurial spirit, a story they feel obligated from their bones to share, a knack for making deep and sincere connections with others and a little bit of scrappiness.

Thank you for being part of our community and for always being the ones who lift others up.

~ Beth (The Little Magpie)

Want to learn more?

Read more of the story and a few reasons we heart this family: We Only Have What We Give

Visit the Give1Save1 site to see their heartwarming video (you will want to see this!)

See the new adoption portal and learn more about Pure Charity on the Marrs Family page:

Visit Jenny’s blog for more of their story: Blessings And Raindrops

I Celebrate Life With Stinky Cheese.

Written by AWB October 2012 Blogger of the Month, Heidi Clark of The Busy Nothings.

I celebrate life with stinky cheese.

I’ll explain…
The last few years have wrecked me. Life didn’t turn out like what I thought it was going to- which sounds a bit juvenile even to me even as I write this, because really who ever gets their fairy tale? Perhaps some people realize this at different points in their lives. I’m not sure if I was just really that dumb or optimistic that if I made all the right choices that everything would work.
Actually, I know that is what it was. I thought if I wasn’t an idiot and made the best possible choices that my life would go as planned. I thought that I was in control.
I breathed out a secret to a friend, and immediately was fearful that since I uttered my deepest fear with arms over my first unborn child that it would come true… and it did.
Sometimes I find myself subconsciously wrapping my sweater tightly around and layering it over my ribs and squeezing myself tight. I am living through my personal worst nightmare. To some, my nightmare isn’t as bad as what theirs is, we all have our private fears that we lock away inside that part of us that doesn’t want to even think it for a second.
We smile tightly through a mask when we comfort those who are grieving and bargain with God whether or not we believe in him, “I could never deal with that, you are so brave and strong,” we murmur, telling fate not to mess with US.
So what happens when you are hit in the face with that locked away fear, the one you are scared to whisper?
You breathe in and out. You tighten your sweater around your body and choose to live again. You begin to realize that what you survived really just made you that much stronger.
I enjoy new things. I look for beauty everywhere because it’s still there, even if it’s hard to see some days. I slice stinky goat cheese and rejoice that my palate has changed to appreciate it. I choose to love every part of my life, even the parts that grate at my heart daily. I celebrate life with stinky cheese.
To read more about Heidi and Summit and William’s Syndrome please visit her blog The Busy Nothings.