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The Risk in Fostering

by Katharine Trauger

Our friends were young—in their twenties— brand new Christians and recovering from a miscarriage, when they felt called to the risk of raising a foster child.

Fostering was to become an ordeal for their lives.

An emergency placement at the age of four, raised in neglect before foster care, then torn away from several substitute mothers, Pamela* was the difficult-placement product of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome/Reactive Attachment Disorder (FAS/RAD).

But our friends did not know it. Actually the syndrome/disorder had yet to be identified, in those days. Nevertheless, they had chosen her, and they chose to encourage her through all her difficult days.

Armed with little but the explanation that Pamela had “loved and lost one-too-many times”, our friends charged ahead, directly into the risk, assuming all she needed was constancy in love. They were told that their home was her last chance, that her next stop was placement in a mental institution, and they were determined to give her the happy life she’d never had, instead.

No pressure, there.

Unable to love, unable to be loved, but most of all, unable to allow anyone else to love or be loved, Pamela entered our friends’ child-starved home, and the war began. And it wasn’t just them who had to fight down her demons: Every place she went, everyone who encountered her, encountered trouble, unmanageable trouble.

They had to teach her every aspect of civilized life.

She fought them every step.

Failing public school, and later expelled from private school, Pamela actually was the reason they began homeschooling, since the experts were positive “all she needed was a little love”.

Believing she would feel more loved, if adopted, they longed for the predicted day of her release, when she could fully become “theirs”.

Still, Pamela remained incorrigible, and ten years after they first rescued her from institutionalization, they were forced to institutionalize her in a professional home for wayward teen girls. Everyone hoped she (and they) could have one last chance at sanity. Those professionals, however, called within a week, begging for help with managing her, and calling her “dangerous”.

Facing the risk.

Between the beginning days of blooming hopes and those last days of acknowledging failure, lay nearly 4000 days of utter testing. Days of our friends knowing people thought they did not love her. Days of total care, as in, having to be awake most of the time, to ensure everyone’s safety. Days of continual explanation and apology to offended people who’d encountered her. Days of never being able to find someone willing to risk being their babysitter.

All the normal things anyone might do to help or to please any child might have helped and pleased her, if Pamela had only been “any child”. Twenty years later they would learn about FAS/RAD, and wish they could go back . . . .

The other risk.

We learned of our foster child in 2014, and despite the pain our friends had shared with us, we knew God was also calling us to risk fostering.

Ours was an anemic teen boy from a drug-ravaged home, with a failing school record, whose hair was as long as mine and stank, bless his heart, and needed a safe place. Oh. Dear. Not our friends’ cute little girl, but a scary teen boy.

What on earth would God do with us (to us?) with this child?

The answer, in a word: Reward.

Who would have thought it could be easy? This child was easy. Fun. Compliant. Grateful. Willing.

He’d chosen us two old people, and we all three knew it would be for a short time, maybe a year. His mom would return. I could educate him and maybe he could learn something in this new adventure our home offered.

 He found in us the dad he’d never had, and a mom who always was awake during the day. He learned car maintenance, wood splitting, carpentry, and vacuuming, along with what to do with skillsets for rulers, fractions, algebra, grammar, and all science to the moon. He loved history and—although feeling the urge to quit—actually wrote several essays.

He went to church. He went to men’s meetings. He cooked. He ate steak.

He bloomed.

He gave in to Christ.

Then just after that, it was over. His mom had recovered. He went home. Mom found employment. He entered a private school and fast-tracked to an engineer degree, or maybe acting . . . .

What we risk.

And the risks of fostering are: You can experience a heart that is cold, aching, and wrung out, or you can experience a heart that is strangely warmed, although emptied.

But you will know you had a heart.

 *  Not her real name.

Katharine TraugerKatharine Trauger is a retired educator and a women’s counselor. She has spent 25 years managing a home and school for children who would otherwise have been homeless, and has worked 15 years as contributor and/or columnist for several small professional magazines, with over 60 published articles. She blogs about the rising popularity of “being at home” from a sun room on a wooded hilltop in the Deep South at: Home’s Cool! and The Conquering Mom and tweets at Katharine Trauger (@KathaTrau). She is currently working on a self-help book entitled: Yes, It Hurts, But . . .

 

Taking Lunch Date Risks

by Brittney Lee

So many of us so easily get into ruts.  If you’re like me, I like things to be familiar and comfortable, so it can be a challenge to branch out.  I know for me, one rut I get into is going to the same restaurants and always ordering the same food. I have a friend I meet for a weekly lunch date, and one afternoon, we started talking about how tired we were of going to the same five places over and over again.  So we mapped out a plan for a culinary adventure on our lunch breaks.

My friend and I decided we wanted to try all the hole-in-the-wall restaurants around town. We wanted to experiment with different types of cuisine.  We wanted to try things from the menus that were unusual. We wanted to try all the places our husbands and kids wouldn’t go.

A year or so later, and we have taken a tour around the world without ever leaving Fort Smith.

Trying a new place, or a new cuisine, or a new dish can make me uncomfortable. I like knowing what to expect, and when you walk into a new restaurant and order something you’ve never had before, there is nothing familiar about it. It’s a risk.  Will the restaurant be good?  Will I like what I order?  Will I even be able to pronounce what I order?! So many uncertainties. But I’ll tell you, the risk has usually had a big payoff. And when it flops?  We haven’t lost much.

We have discovered several places and dishes that we love from these weekly risk sessions on our lunch dates.  

Fort Smith has an abundance of Thai and Vietnamese restaurants, and we’ve tried many of them.  Instead of ordering something familiar, like fried rice, we’ve branched out.  Some of our favorite items have included a Vietnamese Banh Mi sandwich, beef pho noodle soup, and drunken noodles.  

drunken noodles

When we ventured downtown to try the new Peruvian restaurant, we sampled a Peruvian pasta and steak dish, and Peruvian stir fry that had some of the best savory flavors I’ve ever tasted.

pervian stir fry

One of the most interesting lunches came when we tried Indian food.  Not knowing much about this type of food, we sort of ordered blind. We asked the staff to recommend dishes for us, and they hit it out the park!  We loved the butter chicken and the tikka masala so much we forgot to take a picture until we were halfway through our meal!  And don’t even get me started on the strange but delicious dessert we had that was homemade cheese in a milk sauce called ras malai.  

Indian food

Here’s the fun thing about these adventurous lunches, they have made it easier to branch out and take risks in other areas of my life.  When I regularly do things out of my comfort zone, it makes it easier to go for other risks.  For me, it’s been vital to build these small, regular risk sessions into my life.

What are you regularly doing to take risks?  If you don’t have anything that stretches you out of your comfort zone, try a new restaurant.  Order the dish you can’t pronounce. It will be worth it!

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Prepare Your Calendar

By Renee Birchfield

As a blogger, I have more than one calendar that I have to keep up with, as I am sure many of you do. There was a time in my life where I didn’t believe in writing things down or planning ahead. That was not the best idea I ended up missing assignment dates, confusing work hours and generally forgetting things. Then I decided that it was time to make some sort of calendar plan, over the years I have found a way that is working for me. I manage my blog schedule, substituting schedule and our family schedule that can be a lot to deal with if I am not writing everything down.

I have come to love calendars. I enjoy playing with a couple different ones so I can figure out which is working for me at the time. I like the ease of having a calendar at my fingertips on my phone, but I forget to put all my details into it or to check it enough to stay on top of it.  Writing things down helps me to remember them better so a paper calendar is a way to go.

Month View 2014 planner

This Sugar Paper planner from 2014 was my favorite so far and this year I ended up going with a monthly calendar that has notes section in the back and each week I just make a list.  It has been working so far, but I do hope to get a similar new one for 2016.  

Notes Checklist

At the start of the year, I sit down and go through each month page of my calendar and write down important dates, my color code, and my monthly themes. Each area of my blog life has a different color pen and I have one for doctor appointments and other personal activities. I have just started working with an editorial calendar and making monthly themes so it is still new to me.

At the start of each month I look at my theme, important dates, and any holidays, I then go and make a topic or title for each post that I plan to write. I also go through and write in all my prescheduled work days, so I at least have an idea of how much time I have to write.

Now the fun part: getting ready for the week.

month view, notes planner

Each Sunday night I sit down and look at my month page, which is full of color-coded marks, pencil markups, and by the end of the month food stains. When I sit down I look at the things I have scheduled to do for the week. I decide if they can all be accomplished or if I have changed my mind on the recipe I want to share for the week. Once I am sure of what I plan to write and get done I turn to my week view.

In my week view, I write down any appointments or meeting times down on the day. I then go through and make a short checklist of things I need to get done for the posts. I break them down by importance and make a to-do list for each day. While I’m working on this, I go ahead and make the menu for the week as well.  

Once I am done I am ready for the week ahead.

week view, 2014 planner

How do you prepare your calendar for the week ahead? What calendar is everyone using or hope to get for next year?

View More: http://andrewandconnie.pass.us/renee-parkerRenee shares her favorite things in life at Married and Hungry. Hoping that her newlywed situations and thoughts will help another new wife out there, and to let them know they are not alone. Being a self-proclaimed food nerd, with a degree in Food and Culinary Science, she shares her recipes and experiments.  Her and her husband call Central Arkansas home for now. You can find her at home making the kitchen a mess, trying to cross stitch, or playing with their two dogs. Keep up with her over on Twitter, and Married and Hungry’s Facebook page.

The Heart and Mind of a Military Wife

by Julie Mayhan 

dad and meg military

Driving through pre- dawn darkness heading towards the airport we could hear the soft voice of our then three- year- old granddaughter coming from the back seat. Sweetly and innocently, she prayed “please God, keep Popie safe and let him kill da monsters.” This was my husband’s fourth military deployment, but his first as a grandfather.
Arriving at the airport, we stood near the gate saying our goodbyes, and snapping photos. Some things get easier with each deployment, but the goodbye is always hard every time.
 
For us the preparation for a deployment is one of those things that does get easier. It starts months before that final plane ride over the pond. And so it begins with filling out paperwork but not just any paperwork. He must get his affairs in order with a will and power of attorney. While we hope and pray for his safe return, we must accept the reality that he may not return or that he might return wounded.
These are sobering preparations of the heart and mind.
 
One’s mind can run wild and scared like a greased pig in the county fair, trying not to get caught. The mind and how it works is unfathomable to me, and keeping my thoughts of the “what if’s” under control when hubs is deployed is a very slippery task. However, I must devise a plan in my head and keep my emotions under control so that I can survive the “if.” Not always does a plan go as planned, and I must embrace this. Preparing the heart for me is less of a chase. My day normally starts with prayer, but when Hubs is deployed my conversation with God is continual. I know he’s there and listening as he promises in his word to never leave us nor forsake us.
 
And let me say, that without controlling my thoughts and staying in prayer there is great doubt in my mind that I could survive the crazy things that happen during a deployment. Things like the washing machine going to pot, the dryer dying, the AC backing up and leaking water everywhere, a daughter wrecking her dad’s truck. And other crazy things like being glued to your phone and then somehow missing his call, only later to hear through voice mail “if you heard what’s going on over here, I’m okay.”
 
pops and G military
 
When the crazy stuff slows down, the loneliness kicks in. That’s when the slumber parties begin, late night pizza, movies and make-over’s. Daughter, granddaughter, daughter in law and girlfriends the more the merrier! Before you know it, a year has passed and you’re headed to the airport again and while you drive you get your heart and mind prepared for the changes that come with his return.
{Please, remember all our military and their families in your thoughts and prayers always}
me with mugLiving on the Arkansas/Oklahoma border succeeding at surviving military and police life, often requires the sanctuary of her patio, where Julie finds herself propped in a chaise lounge communing with God. A recovering “tantrum tootsie” she blogs about what it’s like to be on a journey of becoming stirred not shaken. She is a proud wife to Edgar aka “Hubs”, and mother to a son and daughter, mother in law and Meme to a lively little granddaughter. Join her on the patio at http://www.juliemahan.com or at https://instagram.com/mahanjulie/

 

Preparing for an Empty Nest

by LaTonya Richardson 

For 26 years Mr. Husband and I have been nurses, taxi drivers, finders of all things lost, laundry attendants, independent banks, cheerleaders, coaches, and teachers to our five children.

Much of our daily existence has been centered around our children’s welfare, health and extra-curricular  activities. One year our three youngest girls were on two different softball teams, while our son played football, and the oldest daughter was in the junior high school band, all at the same time.  Our lives have always been extremely full, and we loved it that way.    

We always knew that one day our brood would grow up, leave us, and eventually make lives for themselves.  As our oldest graduated from high school and went to college, all of our running around was devoted to four. Our son graduated three years later, which left running behind three with their civic and academic organizations, multi-sports, community and church responsibilities. At that time an empty nest was not on my mind. Time has a way of bringing about a change.

Last Saturday, our oldest daughter got married, and our son already has his own little family. The two middle girls have graduated from high school, and are attending the University of Arkansas at Pine Bluff, playing for the Lady Lions, and living the dorm life. Only one baby bird remains in the nest, the youngest daughter, a junior in high school.

It’s hard to believe my children are no longer babies.

Sister's Wedding Day

The dynamics of our large family have changed so much in what seems like overnight. Soon Mr. Husband and I will have an empty next, with no basketball and softball games to cheer at, and no cheerleading practices to sit in on. The thought of our lives changing so fast used to bothered me. After a lot of consideration I realized it was time to embrace the inevitable, and prepare for what lies ahead.

Date Nights

With the mayhem that has been our busy lives for so very long, date nights have been few and far between. We’ve sacrificed quality time together to be present in our children’s lives. Although our youngest is still home, and cheering every Friday night we’ve found a way to squeeze date nights in.  Every Friday night she’s cheering out of town, we’ll enjoy date nights with each other.

I’ve heard of married couples with nothing in common after their children left home. Before we’re left to our own devices, we’ve decided to make a conscious effort to (re)connecting as a couple, and not just as our children’s parents.

I found  a few post to help us get started.  

How to Make Date Night Happen

A Year of Creative Dates

50 Questions to Ask Spouse On A Date Night

Getting Involved

Over the years I’ve not been involved in my sorority, or other civic and community organizations outside of our children’s involvement because there was always a conflicted. Now that we have more time we can do more ourselves. It’s very important that we both have individual interest. I’ve started making a list of things I’d like to get around to doing.

A couple of years ago I joined the advisory committee for the Jefferson County Run Walk Dance. It has been an amazing experience to contribute to the planning and promotion of this event in our community.

Other plans I have include:

  • Attending more blog and social media conferences.

  • Plan a reading program and writing workshops.

  • Volunteer for our local food pantry.

Travel

Most of our travel has been around our children’s sports and activities. We’ve traveled to some great places, and met some awesome people along the way. Like my plans to get involved, I have a much longer list of places I’d like to travel to. Some of the destinations are places I’ve never been, where others I’d like to return and explore.   

The past several years I’ve looked at life as one adventure after another. Bring on the empty nest!

 
Arkansas Women Bloggers member LaTonya Richardson is an instructor in Mass Communication at the University of Arkansas at Pine Bluff. A lifestyle blogger with mommy blogging tendencies, she Lives, Loves & Laughs Out Loud on purpose. LaTonya started blogging in 2009 as a way to chronicle the decade of her 40s. Since then she’s shared many of her life’s adventures one-at-a-time. Those adventures include cooking (and forcing her family to partake), exploring new places and trying to find adventure in the everyday madness that is her life. To sum things up…She’s an average woman trying not to have an average existence.

Prepare for a Hike

 by Sandra Jones

Hiking is a popular hobby in the Natural State.  I got hooked on it about five years ago when my son and I spent an early summer morning hiking Mt. Nebo.  We had a fantastic time and agreed that we should explore a different trail each week. Thus the weekly tradition began, and from Mt. Magazine to Pinnacle Mountain to Petit Jean, we covered many miles that summer.

A few weeks into our adventures, my husband became interested and began planning weekend hiking trips.  We started with the basics, utilizing the wonderful, very well maintained trails of the Arkansas State Parks.  As the number of trails completed and miles trekked grew, we became more confident and decided to try more challenging trails in the Ozarks and Ouachitas.  It’s been a pleasure and a privilege to explore Arkansas.

Along the way, however, we’ve made our mistakes, mainly because of our lack of preparation.  To have a good time on the trail, one must be well equipped.  Based on my experience, there are five important items that every hiker needs.

Number One

A good pair of hiking shoes.  I have hiked in sandals, flip flops, running shoes and even ballet flats.  They have all left me with aching feet, and sore muscles.  Hiking shoes are made specifically to handle rough, rocky terrain, supporting the feet and ankles on every step.  The soles are covered in a rough tread because traction is almost always necessary, especially on wet rocks.  They don’t have to be expensive; prices start at $20.

shoes

Number Two

A backpack that fits.  When I first started hiking, I would take needed supplies in an old discarded school backpack.  It was fine for the first half mile or so, but then it began to get very heavy, an enormous burden on my back and shoulders.   I didn’t realize at the time that it was much too large for my short body.  I did some research and discovered the world of hikers’ backpacks.  They come in various shapes and sizes, are rated for short, long or overnight hikes, and are made with materials that are waterproof and breathable.  I also learned that, just like clothing, the hiker should always try on perspective backpacks.  Going to a store that specializes in hiking, taking the time to try on and carefully choose my backpack was one of the best hiking decisions I have ever made.  My back and shoulders thank me every time we hit the trail!

backpack

 

Number Three

A map.   Even when hiking on the state park trails, if trails intersect, it can be confusing.  Fortunately, each state park has maps that can be accessed online or in their respective visitor center.  They are a great tool not only for guiding hikers but also for noting specific highlights on the trail.

map

Number Four

Knowledge of the trail.    I will never forget the first time I hiked to Twin Devil Falls in the Richland Creek Wilderness with my son and husband.  According to the guide and map, the hike was only two miles, so I packed my backpack with a few granola bars and a couple of bottles of water.  Little did I realize that these two miles were in the extremely rugged terrain.     In fact, we traveled at a speed of less than one mile per hour.  When we reached the falls, we were ravenous, and our energy was spent.  The small supply of food and water helped a little but left me very concerned about the trek back to the car.  Finally making it back safely, we inhaled the sandwiches and gulped the extra water that were stashed in the car.  We were very lucky that day, in my opinion, and probably could have prevented any discomfort and/or injury had we done a bit more research on the area. I vowed never to make that mistake again!

waterfall

Number Five

A sense of wonder.  There are so many amazing things to see in the Arkansas outdoors.  The list is endless:  towering bluffs, phenomenal overlooks, spectacular waterfalls and cascades, interesting wildlife, cool, dark caves and beautiful flowers, just to name a few.  Each trail that I have hiked in Arkansas has so much to offer, and, before I take one step, I check my attitude.  Am I ready to discover something unique, or experience something new?  Can I forgo the worries of the day to enjoy this precious time in nature?  Am I willing to find yet another reason to love Arkansas?  Can I be open to the great story that’s about to unfold?  A wholehearted yes should be answered, but, of course, I know that’s not always possible.  However, even an attitude slightly bent in that direction will be significant in a successful hike because, once the first few steps are taken, the trails of the Natural State undoubtedly has a positive effect on a person’s demeanor.

overlook

Arkansas is a great state for many reasons, among them the hundreds of miles of trails that can be explored.  It’s a hobby that, with a little preparation, can be very enjoyable.

 

sandraI am a wife, mother, and co-owner/manager of Gallery B, a photo gallery in Russellville, Arkansas.  I like to write about the pictures in the gallery, my family and our adventures.  Check out our gallery at http://www.kurtjonesphotography.com  or our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/kurtjonesphotography.  My blog can be accessed at trekkermom.wordpress.com.  

Prepare Your Medicine Cabinet

by Shaye Standokes

ARWB

The season of colds and germs is upon us. I actually have the sniffles as we speak. This time of year, the cooler weather rolls in and our kiddos begin to bring sicknesses home from school. It is of top importance to prepare your medicine “cabinet” for the upcoming cold season.

Nowadays, when we are sick we usually reach for the closest over the counter medicine to cover the symptoms. Am I right? There is a much better way! We can use several things that we may already have around our home, or in our gardens. This makes it much simpler to prepare your medicine “cabinet.” Not only should you add items to help fight cold symptoms, but you should also stock up on preventatives that will boost your immune system to lessen a cold’s duration and make it less likely for you to contract colds.

Here are a few things that you can use to prepare your medicine “cabinet”:
(these are generally considered safe for adults and children)

*Honey: Honey has long been revered for its antibacterial and soothing properties. Not only can it help to boost your immune system, but you can add it to your hot teas for the relief of that dry itchy throat that is common with colds. It is also known for its expectorant properties.  

*Lemons: Lemons are anti-bacterial, antiviral, and immune-boosting. Add lemon juice to that hot cup of tea that I just mentioned for added relief of your sore throat. It can also be added to your morning glass of water for a daily immunity boost.

*Garlic: Most of us usually have Garlic in our homes. If you are like me, I use garlic in just about everything that I cook! Garlic is anti-viral, anti-fungal, and anti-bacterial. It can reduce the frequency of colds that occur, treat throat irritations, and the severity of the symptoms. Make a delicious brothy soup with lots of garlic for an excellent boost in your immune system and relief of cold symptoms.

*Onions: This is another vegetable that I know most everyone has in their homes or gardens. Onions, as well as garlic, contain the sulfur-containing amino-acids. You can enjoy the onions raw or in your brothy soup. Chop up a raw onion and cover it with honey as well as other healing herbs, such as thyme and rosemary. Let it stand for four or five hours (or until liquid gathers at the bottom). This concoction makes an excellent cough syrup and is great for soothing an irritated throat.

Capsaicin (Chili Peppers): This one is for those that can handle the heat! Capsaicin is an excellent decongestant, expectorant, and pain reliever. We all know the feelings that are sinuses go through after eating spicy peppers. This will help to clear up your congestion and speed up the recovery process. (This past week I have been finding every reason to use hot sauce!)

Apple Cider Vinegar: It is best to use organic, unfiltered, unprocessed Apple Cider Vinegar. ACV has long been praised for its many uses. I particularly like the expectorant effect. When my chest is tight, and it is hard to breathe, ACV helps to clear things up. You can also use it to create salad dressings that help you to absorb more nutrients from your leafy greens. Use ACV in moderation as it can cause stomach upset.

*Echinacea: This is an excellent immune booster. Many of you have this growing in your flower beds. You can simply use the flowers and leaves in tea to boost your immune system, or the quickest and most common way that people prefer echinacea is in the form of capsules. You can make your own or find them at your local health food store. Take at the first sign of a cold.

*Peppermint: Stuffy Nose? Instead of your usual Vicks rub, try using peppermint oil! Peppermint can be used in a diffuser for natural relief of congestion, and you can add a few drops to boiling water and inhale the steam. I also like to add it to Epsom salt for bathing to relieve the aches and pains associated with colds. Peppermint tea (made with the plant) is also an excellent choice for congestion and an upset stomach.

*Elderberry: This is one of my go-tos for the cold and flu season. You can find these Elders growing all over Arkansas. Now is the time to harvest your elderberries. I like to freeze them, and then use when needed. You can create an elderberry syrup that will shorten your cold so that you can get to feeling perky quicker. Cook the berries for at least 30-45 minutes. Allow to cool and squeeze all of the juice out. Simmer this in a pan with a large amount of honey or sugar to create a syrup. Walla! You have an immune boosting, cold fighting, and symptom-relieving syrup! (Jellies and Pies are also a unique way to use these berries)

It is super simple to prepare your medicine “cabinet.” Keep from getting sick or get to feeling better faster using those simple remedies. Stay healthy this season!

*Disclaimer: Be sure to visit your health provider if you develop symptoms that are more severe than a common cold. It is important for proper identification and treatment of the illness from which you may be suffering.

ARWB-HeadshotShaye Standokes is a lifelong learner and Graduate of UACCH. When she is not working on a new project or typing away at the computer, you can find her with her nose in a book and a dog on her lap or perhaps whipping up an herbal concoction in the kitchen. She has an intense yearning for knowledge through life and the hope to inspire others to find their passions.

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Sizzle Back

by Christie Ison

Sisters, I’m in a slump.

There, I admitted it.

Starting a new business, dealing with health issues, and just the day-to-day craziness of family life have just thrown me a loop. I’m in a spot where big things are happening, but I just don’t feel the sizzle that I had before. And I know some of you have been there, or you are there. Can I get an amen?

The thing is, I know we have all had that sizzle…that time when we knew we were at our best. Our schedule may have still been crazy-town, but we were contributing something unique from ourselves that came straight from the heart. And it felt great.

Others pick up on the sizzle, too. A couple years ago, my sister-in-law stopped by the Food Blogger Bake Sale that I helped coordinate to raise funds for Share Our Strength’s No Kid Hungry programs. She arrived during setup, when I was excitedly directing volunteers, helping to decorate our space and receiving the last bit of donations to be sold that day.

She told me later that she left the event and immediately called other family members, telling them about the Christie that she’d never seen before: empowered, excited and ready to take on the world.

I’ve been thinking about that day and about that version of myself. I want the sizzle back! I want to feel empowered and excited again. And I’ve given some thought to what the solution might be.

Lots of people could coordinate a bake sale. In fact, most folks could probably do a much better job than I did, given my tendency to disorganization. However, I had a personal connection to No Kid Hungry, having taught one of their programs, and I was passionate about the results in ending community hunger that I had seen with my own eyes. I could see the bigger picture from a unique perspective.

My current projects have gotten so buried in details that I’ve forgotten that bigger picture. For example, in my business, I help foodservice and hospitality professionals find meaningful work. It is incredibly rewarding to reach into people’s lives and get to know them, mentor them, and connect them with good opportunities. However, the work also gets bogged down in WordPress plugins, sales funnels and strategy meetings. The sizzle gets lost.

The same applies to family, as well. I’ve got a hard-working (not to mention super cute) husband and two healthy, smart kiddos. We don’t have much to complain about. But running around for school and church activities can be exhausting. Fun activities, just for the sake of having fun together, fall to the wayside. We fall into the typical school-sleep-electronics routine. (Again, can I get an amen?)

Thinking about the big picture is making me think about some goals for the next few months. (If you missed it, read Kimberly Mitchell’s article on getting the sizzle back through goal setting and checking…it helped me!) For work, I need to not only remember the importance of mentoring and helping my clients, but also to write this into my schedule every day. That way I’ll remember the purpose when I have to work on websites and marketing. And as for family, I’m thinking about instituting a weekly game night or other easy activity that we can do together. Heck, maybe even a scheduled date night with the hubs wouldn’t hurt, to add some sizzle where it matters!

Can we decide together to focus on the big picture before getting bogged down in the details of life? I’ll check in on you if you check in on me. Remind me to ask myself where the passion lies, what difference I can make, and then to go out and do it.

I’ve got it in me, somewhere, to give my best again. I know you do, too. Let’s sizzle.

Christie IsonChristie Ison has been an intermittent food writer at her blog, Fancy Pants Foodie, since 2009. More recently, Ison launched arfoodjobs.com, an online job board and digital community for the state’s hospitality industry. She also teaches cooking classes and is on the advisory board of Pulaski Technical College Culinary Arts and Hospitality Management Institute, of which she is a graduate.

 

Sizzling Work Attire

 

Red Old Navy Dress Front View
Red Old Navy Dress Close Up
Red Old Navy Dress Side View
 Dress Old Navy (old, similar, similar, similar, similar), Pumps Steve Madden, Clutch Old Navy, Sunnies Target

It has been a HOT summer (and for some of us, myself included, that’s a good thing. Bring on the heat! Yes, I know I’m crazy.) Anyway, we all know that especially if you live in Arkansas, it is easy to have to traverse multiple climates in one day. When you leave the house, for example, or go outside at any point, it‘s usually blazing, and you’re bound to start perspiring in seconds. Once you reach the office, it’s like walking into an arctic blast. Some days it feels like the best thing to do is wear your bathing suit for your commute and pack your parka for sitting at your desk. 

Well, that’s not really practical, so I generally have two rules of thumb when I’m dressing for work in the middle of the summer. First, it’s all about what material you’re wearing. Ideally you want something that looks professional, but won’t cause you to suffer a heat stroke. Searsucker and eyelet are good light-weight choices, and I also like things that are silky and sheer or crepe-y, like this red dress.  Depending on what it looks like, you might also be able to get away with something mesh-like, the ultimate breathable material. Secondly, wear something you can layer. I love wearing something sleeveless and then packing a blazer, a sweater, or my denim jacket to throw on where the AC is cranked up.

Hope you are having a great work week! 
Cheers, 
Sarah 

Sarah Giammo Head ShotSarah lives with her husband in Benton. She is a full-time student at the William H. Bowen School of Law, where she is working towards an MPA/JD, and she enjoys blogging about business casual style. You can follow her on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, or Pinterest.

 

Don’t Sizzle in the Sun

by Stacey Valley

keep safe in sun

Even though the dog days of summer are almost over, it’s never too late for a reminder of how to safely enjoy your time in the sun. Here are a few tips so you and your loved ones don’t sizzle in the sun and pay the consequences later:

 

  • Wear clothes. Reduce your burn risk by 27% by covering yourself with a hat, shirt and pants. 
  • Find shade – or make it. Find refuge under a beach umbrella or shade tree. 
  • Keep infants in the shade. Their delicate skin is more prone to burns.
  • Wear sunglasses – and not just for a fashion statement. Sunglasses protect your eyes from UV radiation. 
  • Timing is everything. Plan to be outside in early morning or late afternoon when the sun isn’t as strong.
  • Don’t sizzle. Burns are bad. Don’t let yourself get red, sore or blistered. 
  • Consult the weather man. Each day is given a UV Index which predicts the level of solar UV radiation. The higher the number, the higher the risk. 
  • Not all sunscreen are created equal. Do your research. You can start here
  • Of all the sunscreens, Zinc Oxide provides the best protection. 
  • Avoid spray sunscreens since inhalation of the chemicals can be harmful. 
  • Stay hydrated. Drink half your body weight in ounces of water a day. (Example: If you weight 150lbs., drink 75oz. of water each day.)

 

Summer may quickly fading, but Arkansas sun shines on. So stay safe by taking these precautions. Your health is worth the effort. 

StaceyValley headshotStacey is a wife, mom, and public health professional. She lives in North Little Rock with her husband Anthony and their four daughters. Her life’s motto is “Live big. Love deep.” 

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